There is an old joke about a nearsighted man who has lost his keys late at night and is looking for them by the light of a streetlamp. Another person comes along and offer to help him look, but asks him, Are you sure this is where you lost them?" He answers,” No, but this is where the light is."Are you, like the man in the story, searching for what is missing in your life not where there is some hope of finding it, but where, because you are a woman who loves too much, it is easiest to look?