As a result of such explanations, t

As a result of such explanations, the injured spouse may attack or withdraw from the partner. And the partner, who very likely feels unjustly punished, usually retaliates by counterattacking or with-drawing. And so begins a vicious cycle of attack and retaliation that can easily whirl into other areas of the relationship.
Interpreting a partner's motives in this way is fraught with danger simply because we cannot read other people' s minds.