1. 并非是“世界”本身复杂，完全是“你”把世界看得复杂。思考：这句话

1. It's not that the "world" itself is complicated, but that "you" sees the world as complicated. <br>Thinking: This sentence seems to be especially for sensitive and thoughtful people. Sometimes others do not dislike you, but you are too concerned about external affairs. The universe is busy running on its own. Don't keep asteroids staring at the universe. How to make yourself shine is a serious matter. Put the energy back on yourself. <br><br>2. You cannot feel happiness now, because you will not love yourself. And, in order to be able to love yourself, you want to "become someone else." The reason why you want to be someone else is because you only pay attention to "what is given." In fact, you should focus on "how to use what is given". <br><br>3. The reason why you cannot change is because you have made the determination to "not change". <br>Even if people have all kinds of dissatisfaction, they still think that maintaining the status quo is easier and more secure. <br>The reason for your misfortune is not because of the past or the environment, let alone lack of ability, you just lack "courage", it can be said that "lack of courage to obtain happiness". <br>Thinking: It takes courage to get happiness? Yes, you have to get up early if you want to see the sunrise, and you have to pay if you want to be happy. You can choose to lie on the bed and continue to sleep, but you will not see the sunrise. <br><br>4. Why do you hate yourself? Why just stare at the shortcomings but refuse to like yourself? That's because you are too afraid of being hated by others and afraid of being hurt in relationships. <br>Thinking: This sentence really pokes my heart. The inability to accept the dark side of oneself is because of fear of not being loved. But no one is perfect, no matter how many shortcomings you have, someone still loves you, not to mention you still have advantages! <br><br>5. The inferiority complex that troubles us is not "objective facts" but "subjective explanations." For example, if your height is 155cm, if there is no other comparable person, you will not think that you are too short. The height of 155cm can make others feel relaxed, so looking at your height can also be an advantage. <br><br>6. A healthy sense of inferiority does not come from comparison with others, but from comparison with the "ideal self". We are "different but equal".<br><br>7. I care more about my own life than how others think of myself. "Don't want to be hated by others" is my subject, but "whether you hate me" is another subject. <br><br>8. The so-called self-acceptance is not to pay attention to the "unchangeable", but to pay attention to the "can change". For example, you don’t have to be pessimistic even if you get 60 points, and you should think hard about "how to get close to 100 points" on the basis of accepting 60 points honestly. <br><br>9. What happened in the past has nothing to do with your "this moment", and what will happen in the future is not a question of "this moment". If you live "this moment" seriously, you won't say that at all. <br><br>10. You do not live to meet the expectations of others, and others do not live to meet your expectations. <br><br>11. A lifestyle that simply cares about "what others think" is a self-centered lifestyle that only cares about "me". <br><br>12. Instead of thinking about "what this person will give me", but thinking about "what can I give this person".

1. It is not the "world" itself that is complex, it is the "you" who see the world as complex.<br>Thinking: This sentence seems to be especially for sensitive, thoughtful people. Sometimes people don't dislike you, but you pay too much attention to the outside world. The universe is busy running on its own, asteroids do not always stare at the universe, how to let their own light is the right thing to do ah, to put energy back on their own body.<br><br>2. You can't feel happiness now, because you won't love yourself. And, in order to be able to love yourself, you want to "be someone else." You want to be someone else because you just focus on what you've been given. In fact, you should focus on "how to use what is given".<br><br>3. You can't change because you're determined not to change.<br>Even if people have all sorts of grievances, they think it's easier and more secure to keep the status quo.<br>You are unfortunate not because of the past or the environment, not because of lack of ability, you just lack of "courage", can be said to be "lack of courage to achieve happiness."<br>Thinking: It takes courage to be happy? Yes, you have to get up early if you want to see the sunrise, and you have to pay if you want to be happy. You can choose to lie relaxed in bed and go back to sleep, but you won't see the sun.<br><br>4. Why do you hate yourself? Why just stare at your shortcomings and refuse to like yourself? That's because you're too afraid of being hated and afraid of being hurt in relationships.<br>Think: This sentence really pokes the heart. I can't accept my dark side because I'm afraid I'm not loved. But no one is perfect, you have more shortcomings or someone love you, not to mention you have advantages!<br><br>5. The sense of inferiority that plagues us is not a "fact of objectivity" but an "explanation of subjectivity". For example, if your height is 155cm, you wouldn't think you'd be too short if there were no other comparable people. The height of 155cm can make others feel relaxed, so that your height can also be an advantage.<br><br>6. A sound sense of inferiority comes not from comparisons with others, but from comparisons with the "ideal self". We are "different but equal".<br><br>7. I care more about how I'm doing than how others look at myself. "Don't want to be hated" is my subject, but "whether you hate me" is someone else's subject.<br><br>8. Self-acceptance is about not focusing on "unchangeable" but on "changeable". For example, even if you get 60 points do not have to be pessimistic, in the honest acceptance of 60 points on the basis of their own efforts to think "how to get close to 100 points."<br><br>9. What happened in the past has nothing to do with your "present moment" and what the future will be like is not a question to be considered "at this moment". If you live in "this moment" seriously, you won't say that at all.<br><br>10. You do not live to meet the expectations of others, nor do others live to meet your expectations.<br><br>11. A self-centered way of life that focuses on "what others think" is one that only cares about "me".<br><br>12. Instead of thinking "what will this person give me", consider "what can I give this person".

1. 并非是“世界”本身复杂，完全是“你”把世界看得复杂。思考：这句话好像特别对敏感、易多思多虑的人说的。有时候别人没有不喜欢你，只是你自己太关注外界事物了。宇宙忙着自行运转，小行星不要老是光盯着宇宙，怎么让自己发光发亮才是正经事啊，要把能量放回自己身上。2. 你现在无法体会到幸福，因为你不会爱你自己。而且，为了能够爱自己，你希望“变成别人”。你之所以想要变成别人，就是因为你只一味关注着“被给予了什么”。其实，你应该把注意力放在“如何利用被给予的东西”上。3. 你之所以无法改变，是因为自己下了“不改变”的决心。即使人们有各种不满，但还是认为保持现状更轻松更安心。你之所以不幸并不是因为过去或者环境，更不是因为能力不足，你只不过缺乏”勇气“，可以说是”缺乏获得幸福的勇气“。思考：获得幸福居然还要勇气才行？是呀，你想看日出就得早起，想要幸福就要付出。你可以选择轻轻松松躺在床上继续睡觉，但你就看不到日出了。4. 你为什么讨厌自己呢？为什么只盯着缺点就是不肯去喜欢自己呢？那是因为你太害怕被他人讨厌、害怕在人际关系中受伤。思考：这句话真是直戳内心呀。无法接受自己的阴暗面是因为害怕不被爱。但是没有一个人是完美的，你有再多缺点也还是有人爱你，更何况你还有优点呢！5. 困扰我们的自卑感不是”客观性的事实“而是”主观性的解释“。比如如果你的身高是155cm，如果没有其他可比较的他人存在，你也就不会认为自己太矮。155cm的身高却可以让旁人感觉轻松，这样看你的身高还可以成为一个优点。6. 健全的自卑感不是来自与别人的比较，而是来自与”理想的自己“比较。我们“虽然不同但是平等“。7. 比起别人如何看自己，我更关心自己过得如何。“不想被人讨厌”是我的课题，但“是否讨厌我”却是别人的课题。8. 所谓自我接纳，就是不去关注“无法改变的”，而是去关注“可以改变的”。比如说即使得了60分也不必悲观，在诚实地接受60分的自己的基础上努力思考“如何才能接近100分”。9. 过去发生了什么与你的“此时此刻”没有任何关系，未来会如何也不是“此时此刻”要考虑的问题。假如认真地活在“此时此刻”，那就根本不会说出那样的话。10. 你不是为了满足他人的期待而活，他人也不是为了满足你的期待而活。11. 一味在意“他人怎么看”的生活方式正是只关心“我”的自我中心式地生活方式。12. 不是考虑“这个人会给我什么”，而是考虑“我能给这个人什么”。<br>