The art of doing this is to open yourself to the new and release old notions of security, and that is often very difficult for human beings. You associate doing this with giving up, with being at the end of your rope, and with feelings of disappointment, bitterness and depression. But you can also see such a moment of ultimate despair, of no longer being able to continue in the old way, as if a door is set ajar to a new possibility. You can now take advantage of such an inner crisis to push through that door to another reality.