In certain situations, such as at work, tears are not appropriate. It's good to hold back tears during a tense business discussion. "But once you are safely behind closed doors, don't just cry,"Diamond says. She suggests that you act out the whole situation again and be as noisy and angry as you like. It will help you feel better. "And, "she adds," once our tears have released the stress, you can begin to think of logical ways to deal problem." Tears are a sign of our ability to feel. You should never be afraid to cry.