At the same time, she also got across a new sense of the breakability of her experiences. She told me, in no uncertain terms,that she was actually very good at taking care of the children's food,clothes, health, and schooling, that she also took care of banking chores and accounts, made enough money to have a surplus, was doing the best professional work of her life, took out the garbage,loved her kids dependably, advised them and laughed with them.Her eloquence erased the agony by which she would otherwise have been routinely preoccupied.