Care burden Caring for a terminally ill beloved one involves both mental and physical burdens. But the biggest, the most burden sits here between my ears. (f06, partner; ca urinary bladder) I have had moments that I thought, damn, I can’t take it any longer, this is too much for me. The hospital visits, keeping the house neat and tidy, buying groceries, cooking, ironing, the whole kit and caboodle. (Interviewer: So, did you ask for help than?) No. I thought by myself, leave it, I’ll feel better about it tomorrow, and then I managed to do all by myself again. (f05, partner; ca ovary)