It’s normal before to get involved in a relationship with a person to try to verify some rumors, true or not. I don’t see anything wrong with this.. if you deeply believed those rumors you wouldn’t have married. There is noting wrong, it would have been wrong just disregard them all. At the end you never know people enough. What is wrong is that still today we are treated really really bad, but who’s responsible for the rumors, as I already said 1000 times, it’s not us. It’s totally ABSURD that this is not understood