（3）正确的做法和建议①小虹应该主动的询问小清为什么这样对自己，是不是

(3) the correct approach and recommendations <br>① Xiaohong should take the initiative to ask why such a small clearing on their own, is not what he was doing something to hurt the small clearing, to find out the origin of the conflict. Small positive communication and clear, do not blindly evade the issue or the patient. <br>② often quarrel fight incidents between students and students, it is because we do not know, there is no problem to communicate more deeply contradictory thoughts and ideas will be more extreme, will make some unexpected things, like Ma Jiajue earlier, because they do not communicate with each other do not understand the cause of the tragedy, resulting in an extremely simple idea had a very good young blood is released dramatic changes embarked on a misunderstanding. <br>③ communicate to focus, with the participation of posture, communicate with each other eyes, to maintain an appropriate distance from the speaker, remove obstacles as far as possible. <br>④ To encourage each other to tell the truth, ask open-ended questions, questions inspired, focused and encouragement of silence. <br>⑤ In listening, pay attention to: itself should stop talking, trying to get people to speak easily, showing there is interest in the speaker's action, then remove the lax spirit of integration among the speaker's talk together. In short, can let others listen to forever speak, narrow the distance between, it is very important to listen, to listen to patient. <br>First through their own efforts to solve the problem of communication, it is impossible to find a teacher.

(3) The right practices and recommendations<br>(1) Xiaohong should take the initiative to ask Xiaoqing why this to himself, is not what they did to hurt Xiaoqing, first to find out the origin of contradictions. Communicate positively with Xiaoqing, don't shy away from problems or give in.<br>(2) There are often quarrels and fights between classmates and classmates, because we all do not understand, there are problems will not communicate, contradictions more and more deep people's ideas and ideas will become more and more extreme, will make some unexpected things, like the earlier Ma Jiaxuan incident, because not to communicate, mutual understanding led to the tragedy, The thoughts of the blood-thirsty youth, which had been extremely kind and extremely simple, brought about a great change and went into a misunderstanding.<br>(3) Communication to focus, have a participatory posture, and the other side of the eye to communicate, with the speaker to maintain an appropriate distance, as far as possible to remove obstacles.<br>(4) To encourage the other party to tell the truth, ask open questions, inspire questions, focus on silence and encouragement.<br>(5) When listening, pay attention to do: they should stop talking, try to make the speaker relaxed, showing the speaker's words interested in the action, remove the spirit of dispersal, together into the speaker's speech. In short, listening can make others talk and get closer to each other, so listening is important, and listening is patient.<br>First of all their own efforts through communication to solve the problem, really can not find a teacher.

(3) correct practices and suggestions<br>① Xiaohong should take the initiative to ask Xiaoqing why she did this to herself, whether she did something to hurt Xiaoqing, and first find out the origin of the contradiction. Communicate with Xiaoqing in a positive way. Don't avoid problems or just give in.<br>② there are often quarrels and fights between classmates. This is because we all don't understand, we don't communicate with each other when there are problems, and people's thoughts and ideas become more and more extreme when there are more and more contradictions. We will do something unexpected, just like the earlier Majiajue incident. Because we don't communicate and don't understand each other, it leads to tragedy, which originally was extremely kind and extremely good His pure thought of the hot-blooded youth has greatly changed and gone wrong.<br>③ focus on communication, have a posture of participation, make eye contact with the other party, keep a proper distance from the speaker, and eliminate obstacles as much as possible.<br>④ encourage the other party to tell the truth, ask open questions, inspire questions, focus on silence and encouragement.<br>⑤ when listening, we should pay attention to: we should stop talking, try to make the speaker relaxed, show the actions that are interested in the speaker's words, remove the spirit of laxity, and integrate into the speaker's speech together. In a word, listening can make other people talk incessantly and shorten their distance, so listening is very important and patience is required.<br>First, I try to solve the problem through communication, but I can't find a teacher.<br>