when we turn to a drug, a behavior, or another person to take care of an uncomfortable feeling, we run the risk of developing an unhealthy dependency.If a man has come to represent relief from feelings of anxiety and abandonment, we can become desperately dependent on him. He Is our “fix.”Our “fix”always costs us something in return for the temporary relief it brings. With relationship addiction, the cost is usually, at the very least, an emotional hangover.