it isn't what we tell our daughters, but rather how we feel and act, that provides their most formative lessons in what it is to be a woman. Although our own recovery from relationship addiction doesn't guarantee our daughters won't repeat our pattern, it's still the best insurance against their doing so. In fact, a relationship-addicted mother's greatest gift to her daughter is her own ongoing recovery. Isn't it comforting to know that the better care we take of ourselves, the more we create the opportunity for true health and happiness in all the people around us?