if you want, too badly, to save people you love from the suffering attendant to their addictive behavior, think about this question:Who could have saved me?There were probably lots of people who tried: girlfriends, your mother, a sister or brother,maybe even your children ... and quite possibly all their sincere efforts only caused you to dig in deeper.Learn to honor the transformative process as it unfolds in those you love-and not to interfere.