Remember that your primary relation

Remember that your primary relationship is always with yourself; even if you’re with someone, your personal growth and healing path is still valid. You owe it to yourself and everyone who cares about you not to lose the unique thread of your development in the flow of someone else’s existence, however intimately you are connected. That doesn’t mean you can’t put plans aside temporarily in order to offer help, whether to a loved one or on a wider scale; just keep that back burner simmering away, so you can pick it up again whenever possible. Or, better still, figure out a way to integrate the two, so that your focus is maintained.