第1页If you took the strong points of

第1页If you took the strong points of others and compared them with your weaknesses, would this make you feel good? But the funny thing is that this is what most of us do at one time or another, and some of us do it pretty often. It is probably the cause of unhappiness and the decrease(减少） in self-confidence. How can we stop comparing ourselves with others? Here are some tips I've found useful.AwarenessMost often we do these social comparisons without realizing we're doing it. It's a natural act, I suppose, and as a result. it's something that is done without noticing. So the way of solving the problem is to become aware. If you focus on(把注意力集中于） these thoughts for a few days, it will become much easier with practice, and soon it'll be hard not to notice.Stop yourselfOnce you realize you're making these comparisons, stop yourself. Don't blame(责备） yourself or feel bad, just accept the thought, and gently change the focus.Count what you have Focus on what you do have, and on what you've already achieved. Count what you have, not what you don'thave. Think about how lucky you are to have what you have, to have the people in your life who care about you, to be alive at all.Focus on your advantagesInstead of looking at your weaknesses, ask yourself what your advantages are. Celebrate them! Be proud of them. Feel good about them, and work on using them to your best advantage.No one is perfect we all know that. But we seem to feel bad when we don't reach perfection. You aren't perfect and you may never be. Always try to be better. Don't think you'll ever be the “perfect person”。 If youlook at it in a different way, that imperfection is what makes who you are and you are already perfect.